Well there is this:
I'm not sure we have that good an idea about accretion disks. I mean the basic idea is that stuff bumps into stuff and sticks together through gravity, but we only have one solar system to look at so far.
Obviously I haven't seen the textbooks you have, but mine certainly handled the distinction between mass and weight adequately. Short version: weight only exists in a gravity field.
Some things can't be easily explained. Our brains are evolved to live on an apparently flat surface and dealing with abstractions is not in the original design spec. I don't really expect the universe to be simple, in fact that would be rather disappointing.